Descendants of Miles Bacon & Ann Eller Allin:Information about Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey

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Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey (b. February 14, 1929, d. April 6, 1996)

Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey (daughter of Charles Manley Carey and Nora Eliza Billings) was born February 14, 1929, and died April 6, 1996 in Lindsay Ross Memorial Hospital, Lindsay, Ontario. She married Clarence Austin Bacon on June 19, 1947 in St. Paul's Anglican Church, Lindsay, Ontario, son of John (Jack) Walter Bacon and Margaretta Pearl Duck.

Notes for Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey:
On February 18, 1990 at 2:00 p.m. Bethy suffered two strokes.
(The medical report read:a bilateral cerebellar hemorrhage; right considerably larger than the left. Neurologically, the major finding was that of a scanning type dysarthria associated with right arm dysmentia and Romber's to the right as well as a mildly ataxic gait.)
This is how she described it to her daughter Lyn:
"I felt really hot and shaky and short of breath and walked outside for some fresh air. It didn't help. I felt nausious and vomitted. I felt worse. About ten or fifteen minutes went by and I came out of the bathroom and sat at the end of the kitchen table. I could not keep my balance."
My brother Mervin knew something was wrong and called my sister Darlene. She thought Mom just had the flue and told him Marshall happened to be on his way there, to wait and see what he had to say. Mervin phoned the hospital. He and Marshall took her to Minden Red Cross Hospital in Minden. The doctors tried unsuccessfully to find her a hospital bed in Toronto or Peterborough. She was rushed on to Lindsay Ross Memorial where she had to stay for a few days before C.T. scans could be done in Peterborough. Immediately after the hemorraging was discovered she was taken by ambulance to Sunnybrook Hospital in Toronto where she underwent surgery.
My mother survived the surgery but suffered damage to her right side most noticeably her right arm and hand.

Bethy's Eulogy: Written by daughter Lynda (Lyn)

A TRIBUTE TO OUR MOM - BETHY BACON

Our Mom wasn't really a religious person. Her faith was measured in human kindness. She never judged others unkindly. Didn't meddle in other's affairs. She was the perfect mother-in-law, she never chose sides. She had a stubborn streak and did things her way - always said "if they don't like my gate, then they don't have to swing on it."
Life dealt her a lot of blows but she never complained. I once commented on her strength. She said "you do what you have to do." As an adult you often think that parents can't teach you anything more, she has sure taught us to be strong - and is still teaching us. But she was not too strong to be vulnerable - a vulnerability brought about by becoming a young widow with five children to finish raising alone. She was not always so sure she was doing the right thing and had no one to lean on. We think you did a pretty good job, Mom.
Hard work had to be learned early and there are special memories that only five sisters growing up on a farm in the 30's and 40's can share. She never had a lot and had to constantly struggle to make ends meet - but she always shared what she had and there are many friends and relatives, young and old who have been taken under her wing. And many nieces and nephews have a special place in their heart for 'Aunt Betty'.
We made her wait a long time to become a grandmother, but they were the love of her life and there were always hugs and kisses for Grandma. They will always remember that she had a special little something for them, no matter what the occasion and of course, there was always gum in Grandma's purse.
She was a woman of simple pleasures - once upon a time, a darned good dart player. Ask those who've gone up against her in a tournament or were lucky enough to have her as a partner. She inherited her love and talents as a gardener from her Mom. Always had one of the best vegetable gardens around, a house full of plants and no matter how sick, she had the last, final joy of a warm, sunny day to make her rounds to check on her spring bulbs. And if she wasn't knitting, she was working on her quilt patches. Her hands were never still. If there is a heaven and Saint Peter is working the pearly gates, she is making him wait right now, while she knits him a pair of socks - and she's talking his ear off at the same time.
She treated all of her children equally. We were all her favourites in one way or another. She knew our strengths and weaknesses better than anyone. We are all adults, but we are still her children. She has left each and every one of us special memories and, yes - probably a bit of her stubborn streak. We only hope that she can be proud of us. We will still need her guidance and we know, somehow she will still be there for us.

More About Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey:
Fact 1: Buried in: Kinmount Cemetary.
Fact 2: Religion: Episcapalean.

More About Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey and Clarence Austin Bacon:
Marriage: June 19, 1947, St. Paul's Anglican Church, Lindsay, Ontario.

Marriage Notes for Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey and Clarence Austin Bacon:
Beathy and Clarence's marriage certificate mistakenly identifies his father as Frances Walter Bacon it should read John Walter.

Children of Beathy (Bethy) Margaret Doreen Carey and Clarence Austin Bacon are:

Lynda (Lyn) Joyce Bacon, b. October 7, 1951, Ross Memorial Hospital, Lindsay, Ontario.
+Gloria Darlene Bacon, b. October 15, 1955, Lindsay Ross Memorial Hospital.
+Anna Marie Bacon, b. July 28, 1958, Lindsay Ross Memorial Hospital, Lindsay, Ontario.
+Marshall David Clarence Bacon, b. August 8, 1962, Lindsay Ross Memorial Hospital, Lindsay, Ontario.
Mervin Austin Bacon, b. April 15, 1966.